How to Handle Your Emotions: Disappointment (Part 2)

Hasti Danesh

You always need internal tools to deal with different feelings which take you by surprise all the time. if you are provided with a number of strong internal tools, then you can handle awful feelings and hard times much better, without being much hurt or damaged. So remember that you need to practice and work on yourself all the time. Disappointment can be a passing emotion over a temporary loss, or it may strike powerfully when something permanently changes our lives. A major disappointment can remain within us all the time, affecting our reactions to everything. We all experience disappointment for different reasons. How we handle it is the crucial issue. So keep these points in mind the next you felt disappointed for any particular reason.

4. Have Realistic Expectations: If you have unreal expectations, then the possibility of disappointment increases. Therefore always make sure that you approach other people, your plans and life issues in a rational and sensible manner. Raising this attitude in yourself will help you observe diverse issues from another perspective. Still, there are times when even your realistic expectations are not met for diverse reasons. First of all, don’t go blaming yourself and others because there might be concealed reasons; ones that you might not know or understand at the time being; yet realize and discover much later. Be patient and don’t stop your life there and at that point because time never stops for you, so you are the one who should keep up with the pace of life.

5. Find the Diamond in the Rough: There are always two sides for any incident; a positive one and a negative one and the truth is, you are the sole one who is allowed to choose one side. At the basic level, things might not have turned as you wished they would, but instead of losing all your hope and motivation and focusing on the negative aspects of this event, use your imagination and creativity and see what positive points you can dig out and how they might turn out for your best. You never know; this appearing negative event could lead you toward a better circumstance in the end. Stay calm, take a deep breath and get rid of your destructive emotions before they drown you in an ugly state.

6. Comfort Yourself: While you can reach out and ask for help, but there are times when you need to be strong from within and comfort yourself, healing the pains you feel and experience. You need to stay calm, focus on the issue and analyze it form diverse points of view and try to understand why things have turned out this way and how it could have taken another direction in the first place. This method will help you open your eyes and at the same time be honest with yourself and open up to yourself inwardly.

You will experience a complex of unpleasant and mixed up feelings from time to time, but if you are strong from within, then you won’t be all that hurt or damaged and after a short time you can recover and start things from another spot; learning from your past experiences.