Life Skill Series: Bullying (part 2)

Compiled by Hasti Danesh

Myths about Bullying

-Only Boys are Bullied: There is a common myth about bullying; that boys are the only victims of bullies and they are the only ones bullied. Yet this is merely a myth and the truth is way too different. Actually, girls are bullied just as much as boys; even though the manners are somehow different and the outer appearance varies. Bullying is in the nature of some girls, just as much as it is in the nature of boys.

- Bullies Feel Insecure and Lack Self-Esteem: This is not true in most cases. In several cases bullies adore the attention they draw to themselves and can’t resist their population. Yet most often the level of their self-esteem is higher than average; even if it is really faked. They are proud of their aggressive behavior and how they control others who seem to be weaker than them. Bullies are usually encouraged by others and might form a group who support them in their acts. But the truth is that bullies might suffer from lack of social skills or have depression or terribly anxious; all concealed behind the act of bullying.  They try to make up for their weak points like this and hope to earn a social position in this manner; even at the cost of hurting others. Another fact is that some bullies have experienced this act and been victims of bullies in the past; somehow trying to take revenge on others by repeating the same wrong behavior.

Notice: Never ignore an act of bullying; even if it is happening for a stranger in school or in your neighborhood. The painful consequence of keeping silent is that the bully finds more courage to repeat it; and who known; you could be the next victim. Always refer to an adult; if at school, immediately go to one of the nearest school authorities and share the issue with them, and if you are afraid of getting recognized, then insist that your identity remains confidential. If you watch a scene of bullying in your neighborhood, then immediately discuss it with your parents and ask them for help. Actually the act of bullying shows an imbalance of power, and don’t think that if you keep quiet about it or ignore it, it will automatically be resolved.