Controlling Anger | ||||
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Becoming angry is obviously an unpleasant experience for everybody. When angry, we feel hot, unable to breathe normally and so uncomfortable. Of course, these and other undesirable feelings are the natural reactions of our bodies to situations in which one faces unwanted conducts and/or conditions. But the feelings of anger, like other natural feelings, can and should be controlled and directed properly, otherwise, very harmful results will be experienced, both by the person who, for any reason, has become angry and by the others around. There are some people who get angry frequently and worse, are not able to overcome their anger when they need to do so. Such people usually have few, if any, friends, because nobody likes to have a friend who is mostly resentful and intolerable. And on the contrary, calm, kind and tolerant persons can have many friends, just because of their good temper. This is a fact and should be remembered by all of us who, as human beings, need to communicate with others in proper and beneficial ways in order to find good friends. As Imam Ali (as) has advised, “Try to find good, sincere friends for yourselves, for, otherwise you will have no choice but to make friends with bad people.” Of course, as we know, this world’s life is not a piece of cake, all sweet and soft. Rather, it has its hard times and so should be tolerated with wisdom and patience. Even as children, we may have experienced bitter moments of anger and displeasure, when, for example, we imagined our parents loved our younger brother or sister more than they loved us or when a sibling annoyed us (unintentionally, no doubt) by tearing our notebook into pieces or making our new shoes muddy. As one grows up and life becomes more serious, feelings of anger may get more serious too. One might not be able to forget about unpleasant moments as easily as was possible in childhood, and reactions can sometimes be too hard and very damaging. That is why learning the art of self-control and learning how to deal with anger properly becomes most needed, particularly for youngsters, because they are going to start their lives as adults sooner or later and so should get to know the shoulds and should nots. Here are some guidelines to control your anger:
And really, dear youth! Always keep in mind a very significant fact, namely the fact that one needs to keep his/her heart pure and away from evil in order to be able to lead a fruitful life. | ||||
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